Love Marriage? Remember, that’s the kind that has been made popular through blockbuster movies and social media, the kind where two hearts decide their fates with no parental interference.
Arranged Marriage? You know, that’s the kind which is arranged with the help of a matchmaker, or curious neighbors, or a combination of both.
Arranged marriages continue to be popular in India where the following statement ‘Marriage is a woman’s salvation’ still holds truth. At least, the majority of the people in the traditional circles think so. From the minute a girl child is born, her marriage seems to be the outstanding thought in her family’s agenda.
Soon, random words like guarantee, happiness, longevity, and choice came up during our conversation.
And someone asked, “What about love?”
Oh yes, what about it?
By definition, love is an intense feeling of deep affection.
If we must get technical about it, one falls in love prior to marriage or after, assuming love plays a role.
And we all hope it does.
Longevity? Who knows?
Choice? How many have a choice, really?
Guarantee... Does marriage, love or arranged, east or west, guarantee anything? I doubt it.
What about happiness? Then, is happiness truly a gamble, if a marriage cannot guarantee longevity and assure the right choice in a spouse?
Whether couples have been married for a year, or ten, or forty, it boils down to one thing; happiness is what people make of it. We are as happy as we want to be.
‘Give and take’ helps, although some are prone to more take than give, but after all said and done, happiness in marriage is probably a state of mind.
Arranged Marriage, or Love Marriage, or whatever other kind there is...perhaps one must work on happiness, nurture it, believe in it, and just make it happen.
And when it happens, I bet love will tag along.
From -RAINBOW GATHERERS- by Annu Subramanian